When you choose to participate in the performing arts, you will inevitably encounter feedback. However, not all feedback is created equal. You and your teen must learn to navigate whom to accept constructive criticism from and when, as this is crucial for developing healthy skills. Distinguishing between constructive criticism that fosters growth and non-helpful criticism stemming from limited understanding or jealousy is essential for your teen to protect their self-esteem and confidence.
Embrace Growth Through Feedback
Constructive criticism is the cornerstone of growth in the performing arts. It’s thoughtful, specific, and aimed at helping performers improve. Unlike general negative feedback, which has no purpose and causes stress and anxiety, constructive criticism comes with a roadmap for improvement. It’s the difference between someone saying, “That performance was lacking,” and “Your performance could improve with stronger vocal projection in your solos.”
Examine the Source
Experts in the performing arts, including your teen’s instructors, seasoned performers, and industry professionals, can offer your teen invaluable feedback, drawing from years of experience and a deep understanding of the craft. For example, when a vocal coach suggests modifying your breathing technique, they base this suggestion on a profound understanding of vocal pedagogy.
Encourage your teen to examine the source of the feedback before considering its validity and usefulness. Feedback from a trusted expert may offer a valuable opportunity for growth and learning.
Opinionated Observers
Not all criticism comes from a place of understanding or knowledge. Inexperienced observers are sometimes quick to offer feedback based on personal preferences rather than technical knowledge. Learning to discern whether the critic has a background in performing arts will be important for your teen. While some may claim knowledge, encourage your teen to ask polite, but specific, questions to determine the qualifications of someone whom they have no prior knowledge. Especially if they offer unsolicited advice. A comment like, “I think this song doesn’t suit you,” from someone unfamiliar with your teen’s vocal range or the piece’s demands, should be taken with a grain of salt.
Jealousy and Its Many Disguises
Jealousy can often masquerade as criticism in the performing arts. It’s important for teens and you as a parent to recognize when feedback is not given in good faith. Success can bring jealousy and even sometime haters. Jealousy-driven criticism often lacks specificity and may be aimed at undermining confidence rather than fostering improvement.
If a parent of a fellow performer says to you, “Your teen only got that role because you’re friends with the director,” discuss the comment with your teen. Explain why you are choosing not to give the statement mental time or emotional energy. Talk about how it reflects the commenter’s personal insecurities and need to spread disgruntled feelings onto others rather than on your teen’s performance capabilities.
The Unhappy Leader
Sometimes, the very people who should support your teen may offer hurtful criticism. Although this is unfair and harmful, treat these situations as different kinds of learning opportunities.
Encourage your teen to understand that teachers, mentors, and other authority figures should keep personal issues out of student relationships, but they are human. Sometimes, unrelated issues may negatively influence their interactions with your teen.
Teach your teen to proactively determine the legitimacy of feedback, even if it’s presented discouragingly. This might involve seeking an outside opinion or consulting peers who have witnessed the interactions.
If you feel your teen is being harmed, consider seeking different training and performance opportunities.
Unrealistic Expectations
Throughout their journey in the performing arts, your teen may meet professionals with unrealistic expectations. The gap between professional-level expectations and those applicable to a young student managing a full school load can be significant.
Feedback suggesting, “this was good, but to achieve real success, you need to practice three to five hours a day outside of your lessons or classes,” highlights this issue. While not meant to discourage, such feedback can demoralize, especially if your teen is a passionate hobbyist or unsure about their long-term goals.
Remind your teen that this type of feedback does not currently apply unless they are sure of their career path. If your teen is considering pursuing their art as a career but feels overwhelmed, it might be time to seek specific guidance from a mentor to navigate their path. Every journey and artist is unique.
Conclusion
In the performing arts, criticism should facilitate growth, not serve as a source of discouragement. Encourage your teen to practice distinguishing between constructive criticism and unhelpful comments. This skill is crucial for navigating their artistic journey with confidence. As a parent or mentor, your support and perspective can significantly help your teen thrive amid feedback.
Remember, not all feedback is created equal. Navigating criticism in the performing arts effectively can lead to growth, achievement, and proactive skill development. Demonstrating how to approach criticism with an open heart and a discerning mind will benefit your teen in all life areas as a parent or mentor guiding a teen passionate about their craft.
